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Are You Codependent or Compassionate? - World of Psychology

Are You Codependent or Compassionate?  - World of Psychology | Relationships | Scoop.it

If a woman doesn’t want to have sex with her husband but does it anyway to please him, is she codependent or compassionate? That was the subject of debate a few days ago among some friends and I. Half said she was codependent and half said compassionate. 

The line between codependency and compassion can be fuzzy because the intentions of both appear the same. However, while compassion promotes effective communication and mutual respect, codependency destroys the foundation of healthy relationships.

By THERESE J. BORCHARD


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Maria Teresa Frezet terapeuta olistica's curator insight, July 28, 2013 9:02 AM

respect yourself first, and you will be able to build healthy relationships! 

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What The Vast Majority Of Men Think About Marriage & The Top 10 Marriage Findings of 2012

What The Vast Majority Of Men Think About Marriage & The Top 10 Marriage Findings of 2012 | Relationships | Scoop.it

What The Vast Majority Of Men Think About Marriage & The Top 10 Marriage Findings of 2012

TV and movies would have you believe that men are commitment-phobes who fear the dreaded ball and chain, but it turns out that's just not true.

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Turns out men see marriage as a life goal and the top 10 Marraige Findings of 2012...HT @theaamft @huffpostwedding
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Marriage and Partnering | Family and Consumer Sciences

Marriage and Partnering | Family and Consumer Sciences | Relationships | Scoop.it

http://fcs.osu.edu/family-life/marriage-and-partnering



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Ohio State Family Sciences has great handouts for couples on communication, info for blended families and help with navigating divorce and separation. 

http://fcs.osu.edu/family-life/marriage-and-partnering 

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Brittany Cieplinski's curator insight, September 5, 2013 1:07 AM

This link gives you different options to different types of relationships. It talks about divorce, marriage, and seperation. 

Laureen Marchesini Botticelli's curator insight, August 12, 2014 1:36 PM

FCS stuff

 

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Sleepless nights can turn lovers into fighters

Sleepless nights can turn lovers into fighters | Relationships | Scoop.it
Relationship problems can keep us awake at night. But new research suggests that sleepless nights also can worsen lovers' fights.

Read more: Sleepless nights can turn lovers into fighters

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The lack of sleep is the root of all evil. 

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Carl Rogers on Empathy - 4 Videos | Virtual Mediation Lab

Carl Rogers on Empathy - 4 Videos | Virtual Mediation Lab | Relationships | Scoop.it

Carl Ransom Rogers (1902 – 1987) was an influential American psychologist and among the founders of the humanistic approach (or client-centered approach) to psychology.


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Shawn Bultsma's curator insight, July 23, 2013 7:37 PM

This might have application for discussion in personal social development.

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It was Never Meeting Sally that Mattered to Harry: What Romantic Movies Don't Get

It was Never Meeting Sally that Mattered to Harry: What Romantic Movies Don't Get | Relationships | Scoop.it

A couple of years ago, I had the pleasure of reviewing something like three different really bad romantic comedies for this site over the span of only a couple of months. I didn’t quite swallow my tongue, but it was a close thing.

About one them I argued that the problem with romantic comedies was that they were “pornography of the short cut.” Such movies fetishize the grand romantic moments that litter the beginnings of love, confusing those surging instants of passion for the years that endure. Such stories don’t want to linger on those little details over the years, the kindness and sweetness stockpiled day by day, they just want to jump to some non-existent end point of synthetic happiness.
Read more at http://www.pajiba.com/think_pieces/it-was-never-meeting-sally-that-mattered-to-harry-what-romantic-movies-dont-get.php#JPAsMekEL7BWtdSB.99 

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The Myth of Going Through the Motions

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The Myth of Going through the Motions

In a very insightful review of the movie The Descendants I read that there are no contemporary models for love in the second decade of marriage.  The author implied that for this we must look to 19th century Russian literature.

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Therapist Daniel Hope explains the differnce between love as something that you feel and loving, something that we do. Interesting reframe on "fake it til you make it."

The Myth of Going Through the Motions

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Handouts for Divorcing Parents

Handouts for Divorcing Parents | Relationships | Scoop.it

Lots of informative handouts with suggetions for best practice when parents divorce. 

Telling the Children

Reassuring the Children

Dealing with Children's Feelings of Fault

Talking about Fault

Whom Do You Tell?

Schedule: General Guidelines

Planning a Schedule

Handovers

Short Visits

Staying in Touch

An Agreement Children Can Read

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Fuller Life Family Therapy's curator insight, December 4, 2013 4:45 PM

Excellent resource for parents

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ADHD and Marriage | Learning how to thrive in your relationship

ADHD and Marriage | Learning how to thrive in your relationship | Relationships | Scoop.it

Helping adults thrive in relationships impacted by ADHD
Dr. Edward Hallowell and Melissa Orlov blog about marriage when one or both spouses has ADHD. What is it like? What are common themes in marriages with ADHD? What strategies can be used to improve these relationships? How can struggling couples get their marriages back on track so both partners can thrive?

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Married to someone with ADHD? This site is for you! Lots of great tips for coping and maintaining healthy relationships when one or both partners stuggle with ADD/ADHD symptoms. http://www.adhdmarriage.com Scooped by Amy Fuller PhD

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THE TEN COMMANDMENTS OF HANDLING CONFLICT - The John Maxwell Company

THE TEN COMMANDMENTS OF HANDLING CONFLICT - The John Maxwell Company | Relationships | Scoop.it

“I love mankind - it’s people I can’t stand.” Charlie Brown, in Charles Schulz’ timeless comic strip, “Peanuts”

 

Charlie Brown had a point: relationships with other human beings are wonderful – in theory. In reality, they can be difficult and messy. But nothing determines our success in life as much as our ability to work with other people.

 

And nothing is more messy in relationships than dealing with conflict. But I believe there are both constructive and destructive ways to approach it. Here are my top ten responses:


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What our Brain Tells Us About Our Ability to Empathize

What our Brain Tells Us About Our Ability to Empathize | Relationships | Scoop.it
You're hard-wired for empathy, whether you like it or not.

More than two decades ago now, scientists made a discovery that fundamentally altered our understanding of empathy. While observing monkeys, they noticed that certain brain cells activated both when a monkey performed an action and when that monkey watched another monkey perform the same action.

It’s a scenario we’ve all probably experienced before: If we’ve seen someone stub her toe, or cut her finger, or fall off a bike, and winced because we could feel the pain ourselves. That wincing – that unconscious reaction – is caused by “mirror neurons” firing in our brains. And these same neurons fire whether the action happens to us or to someone we’re watching.


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John Michel's curator insight, July 15, 2013 9:19 AM

More than two decades ago now, scientists made a discovery that fundamentally altered our understanding of empathy. While observing monkeys, they noticed that certain brain cells activated both when a monkey performed an action and when that monkey watched another monkey perform the same action.

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Learn the Art of Intellectual Foreplay

Learn the Art of Intellectual Foreplay | Relationships | Scoop.it

Learn the art of Intellectual Foreplay

By Tonya Leigh

 

 “Words really flattering are not those which we propose but those which escape us unthinkably.” ~Ninon de L'Enclos

 

Suddenly, I realized that the people sitting around that table possessed something that I didn’t: a passion for life coupled with an arsenal of intellectual and conversational skills that had somehow escaped me during my over three decades on this earth.

 

As I watched the playful and at times tense (think Italians flailing their arms around in the air and the French shrugging their shoulders and rolling their eyes) exchange of ideas and opinions, I made another observation. The most captivating woman in the room was not necessarily the most beautiful one or the one carrying the Birkin (now don’t get me wrong, I love a Birkin). She was the one who knew how to use her passion paired with words to charm the audience.


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My favorite parts of thiis lovely tranformational narrative:


  • In France, words are used as play.  It’s not just what you say, but how you say it.  It didn’t take me long to realize that my direct American-style way of speaking was often viewed as rude (or dull) in a French conversation.  The French have a way of adding humor, wit and charm to very serious topics, making it easier to digest.
  • Conversation is like a dance.  Sometimes, you must let others take the lead but always keep up, unless of course, you don’t like the dance.
  • So, here’s my challenge for you.  Begin to weed out all those things you’ve been taught you should know and begin to indulge yourself in what truly inspires you.
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40% Annoyed, 40% Happy, 20% Love = A Healthy Marriage — The Good Men Project

40% Annoyed, 40% Happy, 20% Love = A Healthy Marriage — The Good Men Project | Relationships | Scoop.it

First off, Hollywood lied. Marriage isn’t a magical and wonderful union between two people. It’s messy, hard and emotionally challenging hard work. That is why I personally love marriage (and of course my wife). We need to move the away from the social paradigm where people expect marriages to be happy and constantly blissful and instead move towards the work of creating healthy marriages.


"40% Annoyed, 40% Happy, 20% Love = A Healthy Marriage " - http://t.co/Zdxdao4Paa


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It's sad, but true...Hollywood lied. 

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Brenda Elliott's curator insight, May 20, 2013 7:14 AM

That's about right- totally worth committing your life toward- just not how Hoolywood projects it...

Sharilee Swaity's curator insight, May 20, 2013 10:00 PM

The reality of marriage -- it will being annoyed at your spouse. But then the bliss is unbelievable. 

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The Secret To Blending A Family | Alphamom

The Secret To Blending A Family | Alphamom | Relationships | Scoop.it
The secret to successfully blending a family is making peace with it being messy and ongoing and scary and wonderful.

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Amy Cuddy: Your body language shapes who you are | Video on TED.com

Body language affects how others see us, but it may also change how we see ourselves.
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FACINATING ted talk by Amy Cuddy information about how our bodies have the power to change our mind, mood and perception of ourselves and how others perceive us.  

Standing with hands on the hips in what she calls the wonder woman pose for 2 minutes can decrease cortisol (stress hormone) and increase testorone (dominance hormone). HT @4afullerlife and Jennifer Christian

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Experts in Emotion 10.3 -- Margaret Clark on Emotions and Relationships

Experts in Emotion Series; June Gruber, Yale University In this episode, Dr. June Gruber will speak about Emotions and Relationships with Dr. Margaret Clark ...

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Jennifer Hoffmaster Christian's curator insight, July 9, 2013 4:23 PM

Fascinating interview with Dr. Gruber about her discoveries involving emotions and the importance they play in building relationships.

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Mom’s love good for child’s brain | Washington University in St. Louis

Mom’s love good for child’s brain | Washington University in St. Louis | Relationships | Scoop.it

Mom's love good for Children's Brains

School-age children whose mothers nurtured them early in life have brains with a larger hippocampus, a key structure important to learning, memory and response to stress. 

The new research, by child psychiatrists and neuroscientists at Washington University School of Medicine in St. Louis, is the first to show that changes in this critical region of children’s brain anatomy are linked to a mother’s nurturing. 


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Dr. Amy Fuller's curator insight, July 13, 2013 11:10 PM

The importance of maternal nurtuing has been long proven for rats and primates, and now we know that children who experience nurturing in their early years have a larger hippocampus, by 10%. This is actually a followup study on a study on depression in preschoolers when they were ages 3 to 5. Brain images of these same children were taken when they were between 7 and 10. They evaluated the degree of maternal nuturance when the children were younger and compared the results to the brain imaging. .  This  study suggests a clear link between nurturing and the size of the hippocampus. 

What's the hippocampus? One of the most important parts of the human brain especially since it sits right in the middle of our animal brain (limbic system) which is involved in managing emotion, threat detection, behavior, motivation and memory.  Amy Fuller PhD


Hat tip to Donald Cooper for posting this on the Achieve Balance Linked Group


Read Summary here. Read full text: Maternal support in early childhood predicts larger hippocampal volumes at school age

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Gift of Grandparents

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Gift of Grandparents

Nobody can do for little children what grandparents do.  Grandparents sort of sprinkle stardust over the lives of little children.   - Alex Haley     There is no grandfather who does not adore his ...

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This beautiful post gifts us with images of grandparents working their relational magic from all cultures and with all kinds of children. There is a lovely thought provoking quote about Grandparents between each picture. 

I think those of us who aspire to be relationship experts can gleam a lot of knowlegde from how healthy grandparenting relationships shape children's lives for the good. www.amyfullerphd.com 

see the full post: http://stevemccurry.wordpress.com/2013/03/24/gift-of-grandparents/ 

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Relationship Facts :: marriage matters

Relationship Facts :: marriage matters | Relationships | Scoop.it
From Why Marriage Matters, 2nd Edition.

Among the research findings summarized by the report are:

About Children

  • Parental divorce reduces the likelihood that children will graduate from college, and achieve high-status jobs.

About Men

  • Married men earn between 10 and 40 percent more than single men with similar education and job histories.

About Women

  • Married mothers have lower rates of depression than single or cohabiting mothers.

Read the full document. Read a summary from Marriage Matters


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Looking for a reason to stay married? Here it is. These pro-marriage research findings are all in one document. I found it interesting that over five studies "analyzing different populations find that married men

(especially married fathers) have lower testosterone levels than do
similar men who never-married or divorced." Of note, co-habitating men had the same results. Apparently being near a woman lowers testosterone. 

Read the full document. Read a summary from Marriage Matters@marriage_coc

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Lessons in Open- Heart Surgery

Lessons in Open- Heart Surgery | Relationships | Scoop.it

Open-Heart Surgery from www.beyondthebedroomevent.com 


There is a list of names next to my computer. Though it resembles it, it's not a list of people who love me no matter what. It's a list of people I trust to share myself with, ungaurded and unafraid...

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Creating a list of people who we are able to embrace vunlerabity with and share our hearts in an open way. I just made a list on the notepad of my desktop. This is a good exercise for self-reflection. 

The article explores vulnerabity, trust, and how we listen. May all our hearts be open. Enjoy! Amy Fuller PhD

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Teach Empathy Through Relationships

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Teach Empathy Through Relationships

We need to call attention to the role of healthy relationships in education. Then we need a way to bring rigor to the continuous pursuit of building them.

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A school started a lab to investigate empathy in education and discussed what they label the fourth "R"after reading, writing and 'rithmatic which is Relationships. An interesting discussion about empathy follows. 

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Stop Worrying About What People Think and Create Anyway

Stop Worrying About What People Think and Create Anyway | Relationships | Scoop.it
One of the surest ways to find unhappiness and to limit your creativity is worrying about what others think of you.

It’s true, and I am guilty of it.

Let's discuss one way to solve this problem.
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Bryan Hutchinson shares a wonderful metaphor about remote controls in relationships. Thanks @ADDerWORLD

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An Empathy Video That Asks You To Stand in Someone Else's Shoes

An Empathy Video That Asks You To Stand in Someone Else's Shoes | Relationships | Scoop.it
If you could stand in someone else's shoes... Hear what they hear. See what they see. Feel what they feel. Would you treat them differently? A video that speaks to the connections we all need.
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Watch this video on empathy. You may need some kleenex. HT @kristatippett @beingtweets 

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Grandparenting Dos and Don'ts From Local Experts - Main Line Today

Grandparenting Dos and Don'ts From Local Experts - Main Line Today | Relationships | Scoop.it
Though loaded with experience raising children, grandparents navigate a tricky route in helping to raise a third generation.
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» What Are Personal Boundaries? How Do I Get Some? - Psych Central

» What Are Personal Boundaries? How Do I Get Some? - Psych Central | Relationships | Scoop.it

Love can’t exist without boundaries, even with your children. It’s easy to understand external boundaries as your bottom line.  Think of rules and principles you live by when you say what you will or won’t do or allow. If you have difficulty saying no, override your needs to please others, or are bothered by someone who is demanding, controlling, criticizing, pushy, abusive, invasive, pleading, or even smothering you with kindness, it’s your responsibility to speak up.

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Boundaries are so critical to healthy relationships and yet so challenging to apply effectively. This informative article provides some basic concepts about boundaries and how to set them. 

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Dr. Amy Fuller, Marriage & Family Therapist passionate about healing & empowering a fuller life through Relational, Emotional, Mental & Spiritual Health/Growth. www.AmyFullerPhd.com