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Great News about Empathy: New research shows effort matters more than getting it right

Great News about Empathy: New research shows effort matters more than getting it right | Relationships | Scoop.it

If you sit in a restaurant and look around sometimes you can determine who is married and who is still dating. A couple still dating hangs on each other’s every word, while the married folks someti... Fuller LIfe Family Therapy


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A recent study has revealed a refreshing perspective on what really matters for couples is the sincere attempt to understand each other.

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How Just One Night's Poor Sleep Can Hurt a Relationship

How Just One Night's Poor Sleep Can Hurt a Relationship | Relationships | Scoop.it

Study tracked couple's sleep and their arguments to reveal how the damage was done.

 

"Marriage is an alliance entered into by a man who can't sleep with the window shut, and a woman who can't sleep with the window open." —George Bernard Shaw


People are usually at their worst after a bad night's sleep, but what does that do to their intimate relationships?


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Sharilee Swaity's curator insight, August 5, 2013 11:16 PM

Just one bad night's sleep can lead to relationship problems -- just one night! This is pretty amazing information, and for any couples with chronic sleep problems, it does help to explain a lot. 

 

 

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» 7 Small & Simple Habits for a Happy Marriage - World of Psychology

» 7 Small & Simple Habits for a Happy Marriage - World of Psychology | Relationships | Scoop.it
Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW, a psychotherapist who specializes in couples therapy, believes that relationships don’t require hard work. They do require attention

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A wonderful reframe from how marriage is "hard work" to the reality that marriage just takes both "attention and intention" like taking care of a plant.  

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Maria Teresa Frezet terapeuta olistica's curator insight, August 5, 2013 1:38 AM

Come creare un'unione duratura...

 

In particolare, il punto 6 mette l'accento su come dire le cose al nostro partner in maniera costruttiva anziché distruttiva.... In pratica si tratta di saper esplicitare i propri limiti invece di far sentire in colpa l'altra persona. Un meccanismo semplicissimo ma estremamente efficace! 

 

Ulteriori approfondimenti sul vivere in coppia su http://www.thaatt.com/livelli/condivisione/

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» For A Better Relationship, Catch Some Sleep - World of Psychology

» For A Better Relationship, Catch Some Sleep - World of Psychology | Relationships | Scoop.it
Skipping out on shut-eye can mean problems at home. Place a priority on sleep for better health.
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TY @davidbmartin  @Joyce_Marter

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What our Brain Tells Us About Our Ability to Empathize

What our Brain Tells Us About Our Ability to Empathize | Relationships | Scoop.it
You're hard-wired for empathy, whether you like it or not.

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Garth Sanginiti's curator insight, July 15, 2013 11:02 AM

"In fact, human beings are “hard wired” for empathy – it’s part of what makes us deeply social animals, and distinct from other animals on the planet."

Maria Teresa Frezet terapeuta olistica's curator insight, August 1, 2013 2:15 AM

Thank you Amy for rescooping this nice article! Our ability to empathize leads us to compassion, which is the key to change "negative" patterns in our life!

 

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Why marriage can be good for your health

Why marriage can be good for your health | Relationships | Scoop.it
Why marriage can be good for your health

Proponents of marriage may quote any number of reasons why couples should tie the knot instead of living a life of singlehood. A desire to raise children together is one reason many couples wed, but getting hitched might also be better for your health. That's right, a growing body of evidence has suggested marriage may be beneficial for men and women from a health and wellness standpoint.


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this article lists the health benefits of being married...

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Guide to Step-parenting and Blended Families: How to Bond with Stepchildren and Deal with Stepfamily Problems

Guide to Step-parenting and Blended Families: How to Bond with Stepchildren and Deal with Stepfamily Problems | Relationships | Scoop.it
Blending two families? Get tips for easing the transition, bonding with stepchildren, and dealing with common challenges.
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Excellent resource for blended familes. 

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Rupa Lahiri's curator insight, September 26, 2013 2:34 AM

For Blended Families.

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Mindfulness and Neural Integration: Daniel Siegel, MD at TEDxStudioCityED

Daniel Siegel, MD, is Clinical Professor of psychiatry at UCLA, Co-Director of Mindful Awareness Research Center, Executive Director of Mindsight Institute, author, and recipient of numerous awards and honorary fellowships.

This talk examines how relationships and reflection support the development of resilience in children and serve as the basic '3 R's" of a new internal education of the mind.


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Very informative explaination of the brain and how it works to help us manage ourselves. 

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John Threadgold's comment, September 8, 2013 5:17 PM
very good video indeed. I offer a combination of Mindfulness and Focusing-Oriented Therapy to my clients, and those who embrace it, recover !
Carla Chapman's curator insight, October 1, 2014 11:19 AM

Does emotional and social intelligence impact attention? I believe it does.  Watch this brief and eye opening video to see if you agree. 

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What Inspires Me: It's One Question Away

What Inspires Me: It's One Question Away | Relationships | Scoop.it
I have a little secret. I am an inspiration junkie. As an entrepreneur, I want to get as much positive energy as I can in any given day. A few years back, I stumbled into one simple question that
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I really identify with what Gina Bianchini shares as a way to get inspiration anywhere and from anyone. What a great practice. 

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How Eye Contact Works

How Eye Contact Works | Relationships | Scoop.it
Eye contact can signal love, hate, intelligence, creepiness, persuasion, sarcasm and sometimes lies.

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ADHD and Marriage | Learning how to thrive in your relationship

ADHD and Marriage | Learning how to thrive in your relationship | Relationships | Scoop.it
Welcome to "ADHD and MarriageHelping adults thrive in relationships impacted by ADHD
Dr. Edward Hallowell and Melissa Orlov blog about marriage when one or both spouses has ADHD. What is it like? What are common themes in marriages with ADHD? What strategies can be used to improve these relationships? How can struggling couples get their marriages back on track so both partners can thrive?
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ADHD and Marriage

Adult ADHD presents unique challenges for couples in particular to living interdependently. This website offers tools and resources for the couple where one or both sturggle with attention and focus issues.  

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Finding Common Ground: The Harvard Negotiation Project

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Finding Common Ground: The Harvard Negotiation Project

Here’s the good news: 
Instead of suffering the loss of what is most important to you, or unknowingly putting your partner’s needs in jeopardy, you can use a simple approach to change the nature of negotiation. Take Fisher and Shapiro’s advice – focus on these five core concerns. 

Go through them all: Appreciation, Affiliation, Autonomy, Status, and Role. Do you feel that your needs are being met in all of these areas? Don’t worry if they aren’t. These are not easy concerns to address! Your level of satisfaction with each of them is a result of many complex and long-lasting dynamics between yourself and your partner.
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Wonderful tool for navigating conflict in a healthy manner from the Gottman Relationship Blog: 

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Empathic Listening | Beyond Intractability

Empathic Listening | Beyond Intractability | Relationships | Scoop.it

Empathetic Listening

Empathy is the ability to project oneself into the personality of another person in order to better understand that person's emotions or feelings. Through empathic listening the listener lets the speaker know, "I understand your problem and how you feel about it, I am interested in what you are saying and I am not judging you." The listener unmistakably conveys this message through words and non-verbal behaviors, including body language. In so doing, the listener encourages the speaker to fully express herself or himself free of interruption, criticism or being told what to do.

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Extensive discussion about empathic listening with benefits, how to's, and guidelines. 

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Trust and Trust Building | Beyond Intractability

Trust and Trust Building | Beyond Intractability | Relationships | Scoop.it

Trust and Trust Building

Trust has been identified as a key element of successful conflict resolution (including negotiation and mediation). This is not surprising insofar as trust is associated with enhanced cooperation, information sharing, and problem solving.

The need for trust arises from our interdependence with others. We often depend on other people to help us obtain, or at least not to frustrate, the outcomes we value (and they on us). As our interests with others are intertwined, we also must recognize that there is an element of risk involved insofar as we often encounter situations in which we cannot compel the cooperation we seek. Therefore, trust can be very valuable in social interactions.

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This essay on trust and trust building is quite through and very informative. Helpful for families and parents with adolescents and couples who struggle with trust. 

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Can't Buy Me Love

Can't Buy Me Love | Relationships | Scoop.it

BYU study shows that materialistic couples are less happy. New research confirms The Beatles’ lyrical hypothesis and finds that there are indeed som...

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Money is one of the big 3 sources of conflict for couples (with sex and family)...so it makes sense that couples with a great love of money might have less love for each other.This interesting study stands in the face of what our culture says brings the good life. 

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Why Your Brain is Hooked on Being Right (and What You Can Do About It)

Why Your Brain is Hooked on Being Right (and What You Can Do About It) | Relationships | Scoop.it

Why your brain is hooked on being right...

I'm sure it's happened to you: You're in a tense team meeting trying to defend your position on a big project and start to feel yourself losing ground.


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Cortisol vs. Oxytocin....with great exercises for dealing with this addiction in new ways. 

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60 Tiny Love Stories to Make You Smile

60 Tiny Love Stories to Make You Smile | Relationships | Scoop.it

Here’s a selection of 60 tiny love stories recently submitted to our sister site, Makes Me Think, that not only made us think, but warmed our hearts and made us smile too.  We hope they do the same for you.

  1. Today, my 75-year-old grandpa who has been blind from cataracts for almost 15 years said to me, “Your grandma is just the most beautiful thing, isn’t she?” I paused for a second and said, “Yes she is. I bet you miss seeing that beauty on a daily basis.” “Sweety,” my grandpa said, “I still see her beauty every day. In fact, I see it more now than I used to when we were young.” MMT http://www.marcandangel.com/2011/11/20/60-tiny-love-stories-to-make-you-smile/

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Happiness Blueprint 's curator insight, May 28, 2013 5:20 PM

SO SWEET ! 

Jennifer Hoffmaster Christian's curator insight, July 30, 2013 11:12 AM

These are the most beautiful little love stories. I experienced tears of joy and gratitude for living in such a beautiful world.

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Dr Daniel Siegel presenting a Hand Model of the Brain

Dr Daniel Siegel presents a hand model of the brain.
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Dr. Seigel explains the brain using his hands in an easy to understand language. This clip specifically explains brain function in relationship to parenting. HT @thompson3_jen

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Jennifer Hoffmaster Christian's curator insight, July 30, 2013 10:09 AM

This is such a great easy model of what happens in the brain and how we can use that knowledge to help us be more regulated emotionally with our children and loved ones. VERY COOL!

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I Don't Feel Your Pain: Overcoming Roadblocks to Empathy

I Don't Feel Your Pain: Overcoming Roadblocks to Empathy | Relationships | Scoop.it
Why empathy is import at home and work and how to be better at it.

 

Neuroscientists have recently discovered that humans are wired to experience empathy through multiple systems of mirror neurons in our brains. These mirror neurons reflect back actions that we observe in others causing us to mimic that action in our own brains.  When we observe someone in pain or when we are with someone happy, we experience that to a certain extent. These mirror neurons are the primary physiological basis of empathy. They create a neural Wi-Fi that connects us to the feelings of people around us. 

 

Many people seem to be naturally empathetic. Others are not.  The good news is that research shows that empathy can be learned. There are however a few potential roadblocks to empathy that must be overcome.

 

by David F. Swink


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Barbara Kerr's curator insight, March 10, 2013 2:56 PM

Did you know that those who negotiate with hostage-takers are trained to "fake" empathy?  Read more to see what happens!

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Garth Sanginiti's curator insight, August 1, 2013 9:57 PM

Empathy is a key skill to dealing and interacting with people in a manner that produces positive outcome and builds healthy relationships.  The article does a good job explaining what emphathy is, as well as giving some tips to improve in this area.  It also includes facts to support the assertion that empathy matters at work, "Empathy is also important in the workplace. A study conducted by the Center for Creatively Leadership investigated 6,731 leaders from 38 countries. Their results reveal that empathy is positively related to job performance. The study concluded that managers who show more empathy toward direct reports are viewed as better performers in their job by their bosses."

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The Four Things That Kill a Relationship Stone Dead

The Four Things That Kill a Relationship Stone Dead | Relationships | Scoop.it

A recipe for divorce: criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling.

For over 40 years the psychologist Professor John Gottman has been analysing relationships, both good and bad.

 

He's followed couples across decades in many psychological studies to see what kinds of behaviours predict whether they would stay together in the long-term or were soon destined for the divorce courts

 

.Amongst the factors he identified, four have stood out, time and time again. When Gottman sees a couple's communication overrun with these, the chances are they will divorce in an average of around six years from their marriage.

 


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Ted Thomas's curator insight, July 29, 2013 6:15 AM

Relationship killers...

Modern Love Guide's curator insight, July 29, 2013 3:21 PM

This is so good and so true.

Garth Sanginiti's curator insight, August 1, 2013 10:01 PM

Good advice from Professor John Gottman to help strengthen relationships.

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5 Damaging Myths We Believe About Relationships

5 Damaging Myths We Believe About Relationships | Relationships | Scoop.it
My work over the last 15 years has largely been devoted to exploding the damaging myths that we absorb about love, romance, and relationships from the time we're old enough to ingest information.
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99 Things You Might be Thankful for about Your Husband

99 Things You Might be Thankful for about Your Husband | Relationships | Scoop.it

 

  1. He works hard.
  2. He has a job.
  3. He's trying hard to find a job.
  4. He's a human jungle gym for the kids.
  5. He wants the best for our kids.
  6. He helps with the kids at bedtime.
  7. He's passionate about our family.
  8. He's a good leader....
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The Ultimate Anniversary Round-Up

The Ultimate Anniversary Round-Up | Relationships | Scoop.it
Need an idea for your upcoming anniversary? We have an idea for {almost} EVERY year! Date ideas, gifts, and even quick notes or cards.
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Wonderful ideas for celebrating and giving on your anniversary! 

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9 Things Your Relationships Need From You

9 Things Your Relationships Need From You | Relationships | Scoop.it
There is greatness and beauty in doing something inconvenient for the sake of someone you care about. All relationships require work. They don't just materialize ...

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Brenda Elliott's curator insight, April 22, 2013 5:03 PM

worth what you put into it- skills we learn, they don't just happen

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Three Keys to Creating an Extraordinary Relationship

Three Keys to Creating an Extraordinary Relationship | Relationships | Scoop.it
Lori Hollander LCSW-C, BCD - Three common themes can be found in extraordinary partnerships, which don't form magically but, rather, are created and nurtured.
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